Rewiring the System

Caring Facing Inward Soul Hurting A Lot Sad A Lot

Posted in Uncategorized by rewiringangel on February 12, 2010

contemplate the idea that I should see myself in my enemies.

It was interesting talking but I am not interested in going backwards.

I cannot go back to the way I felt as like free radical stranded out on the margins of your heart.  I have a living picture of our actions and feelings. These abrasive movements have left their mark.  I no longer want to feel that I am challenged in every conversation. The time when I really needed a caring call and real help no one called.  I could not get out of bed.  I am still shocked.  You did not see me because you were completely  self involved .

You can’t air brush it, that is why we do not talk, or work our relationship out.

If it were not for my Friend M, mentioning I should feel compassion for you and all people, and he did not mean blind fuzzy compassion.  He meant compassion and not codependent. I feel compassion for the action and reaction, karma,  you are piling up, the sheer size and magnitude that you will find clanging along your life. M believes the pain I feel is worth compassion.

Just as People in my past went about stealing my favorite first day covers, there  will be a stone around  their necks.   I have known people who do things in an effort to drain the very life force out of one another.

  1. Selflessness: In a world where many people don’t have the time or the interest in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common.  People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give.  Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated and special.  While those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite.

2.  Tolerance: Those people who are tolerant make us feel comfortable with who we are and special as individuals.  All of us are different, and many of us have quirks and idiosyncrasies.  After all, these differences make the world go round.  Having the ability to accept people for who they are and not expect them to be who we want them to be is important in life, happiness and in the health of our relationships.

3.  Genuineness: Having the ability to be real, authentic and honest is unique in a world where we put so much emphasis on the superficial.  Feeling comfortable in one’s skin and being true to one’s self is one of the most beautiful traits one can possess.  To have a REAL relationship with someone requires honesty…it requires hearing and giving input or feedback that may not always be popular…it means having the strength to tell it like it is and to not be afraid to face the consequences for doing so…it means loving people for who they really are…deep down…and not for what they appear to be.

4.  Sensitivity: So often we are focused on what is important to ourselves that we can forget about those around us.  Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued and respected.  Often, sensitive people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say.

5.  Integrity: Call me cynical, but I think this characteristic is especially difficult to find.  In a time when people will do things that are underhanded to make an extra buck (Bernie Madoff…can you hear me?), expose their personal lives to the public so they can be famous (balloon boy’s dad and any other reality TV mongers) and do what feels good in the moment without necessarily thinking of the consequences (Tiger Woods), integrity is a characteristic that is especially unique today.

6.  Humility: Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented or drop-dead gorgeous, there is something extra special about them if they don’t come across as though they know it all the time.  Humility in those that possess extraordinary traits make others feel special too.

Ilsa Bartlett


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